by Jennifer Yhaye

I just took a break from an intensive study session: It’s all so much information! And I am laughing at myself for the life I chose. As the west-African expression says “Who sent me message?”

It is however in these candid moments that I reflect the most on my career path.

To think that, had I listened to most people, I’d be standing in front of my mirror asking myself “Why did I give up becoming a pilot ?”

From the silent nights with tears flowing down my astigmatic eyes pondering on discouraging statements like “You can’t become a pilot; you wear glasses” or infuriating comments like “you did not get an A in your Physics A-levels, how do you think you can survive flight school ?”, I’m glad I did not take anybody’s advice. It surely was God’s way to guard my heart and save my dream.

I learnt much later in life that I was right for sticking with my vision, even when I had no idea how tumultuous the journey could be.

I have met countless people who did not get the chance to be this stubborn. Many men and women have said to me before: “When I was younger, I wanted to become a pilot BUT…” and here comes a list of valid reasons, that in my humble opinion, are all linked to other individuals’ erroneous advice. The irony is, they grow up to realize that these people truly knew nothing about the job. As a matter of fact, generally, they were neither pilots nor knew any.

I also noticed that human beings have the unfortunate tendency to share their unsolicited opinions with whoever breathes, and it is sad that more often than not, it affects others’ drive, self-esteem, and sometimes their plans.

“I don’t like the way you dress for work.”

“You shouldn’t open a business in such a critical economy.”

“If you quit this company, you won’t get a better job.”

“You don’t work enough; when I was your age, I was doing twice as much work.”

“You should settle down now, or you won’t find anyone later.”

To whoever has been a recipient or even donor of such killjoy words, remember that life is not linear. Everyone is on an individual journey that requires authenticity, and projecting your expectations or failures on anybody else, would most likely lead you to disappointment.

Not to discredit the few genuinely caring souls who give advice from a place of love and wisdom, but remember to never take advice from a tree that bears no fruit.

Sidenote (First of all, Physics A-level is nobody’s friend. Why would you expect a teenager to master quantum physics ??? We nailed it though.)


Aïcha Coulibaly September 10, 2022 - 3:30 pm

Beautiful. My little sister wants to be a pilot. She’s in her last year of high school in Côte d’Ivoire. She’ll definitely find a mentor and an example in you. Thanks for sharing.

Mariam Gnakra September 10, 2021 - 7:23 am

I loved reading this in the middle of a study night on a topic that everyone deems inappropriate for me as a woman. But thank God, I have enough faith in Him and self-confidence to remain “stubborn”. Thanks for sharing this!

Jennifer Yhaye September 22, 2021 - 8:47 am

Hello Beautiful, I cannot wait for you to shine in that field that everyone deemed inappropriate for you. Resistance is usually a sign that you are in the right direction, so keep going! God is with you
Love, Jenn x

Pierre April 28, 2021 - 1:05 am

This is inspiring.

Omoefe+Ovbagbedia April 20, 2021 - 7:21 pm

Amazing read! A subtle reminder that OUR DREAMS ARE VALID!!

Hayaux Frosi April 19, 2021 - 12:06 pm

I thank you for the message given, and I have believed people’s opinions for a long time. It is a lesson learned that we do have a personal journey, and accept that. You were able to make it happen. Thanks for being a role model

Souveraine Allobo April 19, 2021 - 10:20 am

Keep focusing on your vision and let no distractions come your way.

Louange Amoako April 18, 2021 - 7:54 pm

Glad you kept going! When you are in your weak point and you keep going , that is strength.

Andrea April 18, 2021 - 7:45 pm

Love what I’m reading!

Blankson Adwoa April 18, 2021 - 6:29 pm

I love this for you; defying the odds and actualising your desires!
Thank you for reminding us that our convictions are valid and achievable.


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